Dear Jasmine,
Recently my grandmother passed away and I was very close to her. I am having a hard time dealing with her death. I constantly think about her and am almost in disbelieft that she has died. I try to be positive around those around me so that people will not be concern with how bad I can sometimes feel.
Whenever I feel like this, I wish I could talk to someone but I feel like it is a waste of time because the emotions I feel are the same. I am sad. It feels stupid to have these feelings and talking about them because they are the same feelings I have been feeling since she passed away.
It seems like lately I am having a hard time doing the normal things I use to do prior to her passing. I don’t enjoy some of the things I use to do. I even feel a lack of motivation at work now as well. I am not sure how long I will feel like this and how I should deal with it.
Ann L.
Los Angeles, CA
Dear Ann,
Whenever dealing with a death of a love one, it can never be easy. As someone who has loss many loved ones, I can tell you it takes a lot of time for some of the wounds to heal. Sometimes when a love one passes, we feel a sense of void in our lives and often times block out the fact the are truly gone and go about our daily lives as if they are still alive. However, when we have those few moments where it hits us hard that, yes this person is in fact gone, it becomes hard for us to deal with.
Your feelings for your grandma will always be there, but given time, you will come to terms with her passing. Maybe you may feel like other’s don’t want to listen to you when your feeling emotional about your grandmother’s passing, but try talking to your love ones. Chances are your love ones want to be there for you and some of them may also be having a hard time dealing with her passing. Talking about it could be therapy for you and also for your love ones.
Although you seem to not enjoy some of the things you use to enjoy, I think you may need get out of this rut and try to relax and enjoy those things again. Doing and enjoying some of the things you use to enjoy may be just the thing to get you back to your old self again. Just remember to take it one day at a time
Always here,
Jasmine
