Dear Jasmine,
I have this friend who use to be married to the man that I am involved with now. I have been with him for 6 years now. My friend has since remarried. We did go through a lot of bad times while I was getting together with her ex-husband.
We have just started talking and being friends now, for maybe about a year. But, sometimes I feel that she doesn’t really want to be close to me. I don’t know, maybe I just can’t read into things right but I feel like her and I have so much in common and could really be close friends. However, I am not so sure what she really wants out of this. I am bummed and unsure about this situation. What do you think?
Trina
Columbus, OH
Dear Trina,
It may be difficult for your friend to be close with you because you are with her ex-husband. It is different for everyone who handles a break up. She may feel somewhat awkward being your friend after all that turmoil you two went through while you were getting with her ex-husband.
Have you discussed this with your friend? I think if you really want to work something out with her, or at least find out what is going on with her then you approach her and ask. This way, you can find out if maybe she just has a hard time being your friend because of the situation you guys are in. Nonetheless, I think if it is important for you to be her friend, you should take into consideration how she may be feeling.
Don’t push her into being your friend if she is uncomfortable still. But letting her know how your feeling may allow her to open up to you too and give you insight on what is going on with her. She could very well still be getting over all the things you two went through during the tough patch you guys went through. The time for everyone to fully get over some things are different and she may not know where you guys stand right now either. If you think there may be a chance you guys could be good friends, approach her and find out where you both can go from here.
Always here,
Jasmine
