Dear Jasmine,
My problem is with my brother’s girlfriend. They have not been dating for that long but I am hoping it will not progress any further. I do not think that this girl is right for my brother and just doesn’t measure up to my brother. I truly do not see what my brother sees in this girl because there is really nothing good this girl has to offer my brother but trouble. My brother is a upstanding fellow and I think can find a much better girl.
Ever since my brother has met this girl, she has been playing mind games with him. Half the time he comes to me and I have to help him through them because he is confuse about what is going on. We are not little kids anymore, we are adults, so playing these mind games just shows how immature and childish this girl truly is!
My brother even agrees with what I think about her and sees what I am saying but yet he likes her! What is wrong with him? What can I do to help my brother find someone who is better suited for him?
Kimberly E.
Dayton, OH
Dear Kimberly,
Even though you do not like your brother’s girlfriend, your brother seems to have taken a liking to her. It may seem foolish to you right now, and you could very well be right but you should let your brother figure out his own mistake. I know it’s hard to stand by and watch your own brother get mistreated by this girl but there is nothing more you can do but help him through it and give him advice on moving on with his life.
What you know of this girl could just be all the negative things your brother has told you about her, he may not have shared with you the good things about her so you can understand why he likes her. Love can be blind sometimes and perhaps your brother is blinded by love right now and can’t comprehend what is going on logically even though you have talked with him about it.
The relationship is new, let some time pass and see how your brother is doing. Hopefully if his girlfriend is not good for him, he will see it for himself and find himself a better partner. You sound like you care about your brother’s well being and I know it will be hard for you just to stand by but you can do so and be a shoulder for your brother to lean on when he needs someone to turn to. Let him learn from his own mistakes and be there for him when he needs you.
Always here,
Jasmine
