Dear Jasmine,
I feel like I have no direction in my life. I don’t know what I want to do anymore. I thought that I knew what I wanted to do with my life but lately I just feel like I am failing at everything in my life.
I feel so unhappy with my life right now and I don’t know what I should do. I really just want to go into hiding or something and just ignore the world for awhile. I wish I had the chance to just do that but I don’t.
I have these obligations to go to certain functions that I just don’t want to go but even though its not mandatory for me to attend, if I don’t go I will look bad. I hate that, I want to be able to do what I want to do, not something else just because it will make me look uninvolved with my colleages.
Some people may enjoy these types of gatherings, but I really don’t. I prefer to interface with them where I need to, and not have to outside of my regular duties. I really dread the holidays now because I don’t want to attend any of these events but I feel obligated to and whatever choice I make, I will be miserable.
Annabella
Los Angeles, CA
Dear Annabella,
Especially during the holidays people feel the stress because of all these extra things they have to do. You have to buy presents, go to certain events in relation to the holiday and frankly it can burn you out. That is what it sounds like has happened to you.
You may be feeling depressed because of the holidays and all the added stress the holidays come with. You need to ask yourself what is really bothering you and deal with the issues you may have becuase the holidays should be a time for celebrating, not a time of dreading.
In regards to your obligations to these functions, if you really do not want to attend these things, you shouldn’t have to go. Don’t subject yourself to being so miserable if you don’t have to be. Unless it is really important for you to attend these events, I would suggest you take the time to relax instead because it sounds like you need it. Some people just aren’t into these types of social functions and some are so don’t be so hard on yourself. Try to enjoy the holidays!
Always here,
Jasmine
