Dear Jasmine,
My boyfriend is 20 about to be 21 and I am 15. We met through my best friend, he is her boyfriend. We have been together for two months now. I know I love him and I know he loves me.
He treats me like a princess but lately it’s been getting harder. My parents have been listening to my conversation and stop letting me go to his apartment, I go to hang out with his sister they live together.
We are making it work without actually having to tell our parents because we don’t want him to get arrested. We have to wait about 3 years till we can tell anyone. I haven’t seen him in 2 weeks, is there anyway we could make this easier without telling my parents?
Erica
North Carolina
Dear Erica,
I know you will not like what I have to say but your boyfriend is way too old for you. He has a lot more experience then you and is taking advantage of the fact that you are so young. Another concern I have is he is your friend’s boyfriend, why are you dating a guy who is your friend’s boyfriend.
I am going to go out on a limb and assume your friend is around your age. His pattern of behavior of dating such young girls would raise a red flag with me. I don’t know if you have been intimate with him but I would encourage you not to do it. I would also remind you of all the diseases out there that you could get if you are not careful.
I think your parents will have your best interest at heart because the truth is there is something wrong with this guy if he is dating someone your age. Right now you are young and impressionable and he is taking advantage of it.
Do yourself a favor and date someone your own age. You need to grow and mature before you should start dating someone who is so much older then you, especially when you are so young. I am sure you are a very smart girl, but don’t get yourself involved with someone who is essentially preying on young girls like yourself. If he was dating your friend, he shows a pattern of taking advantage of young girls. You do not need that in your life. Think about the consequences of your actions.
If you guys truly love each other, then he should and would want to wait until your 18 before you both start dating. If he has any respect for you then that is what he would do. If he continues to date you, it means he does not respect you. Respect yourself enough to know what is right and wrong. If you two belong together you will be together later when you are older and have more knowledge and experience.
Always here,
Jasmine
