Dear Jasmine,
I find myself writing to you once again. I have been divorced for nearly 10 years now. My ex husband and I have tried in the past to get back together on several occasions, but I was not ready. I was still holding a lot of bitterness and hurt towards him.
I knew if I went back it would not be a good thing. He was bitter with me for along time. Well, now he has a serious girlfriend of nearly two years now and the two of us have been getting along so much better now! About 4 months ago I ended up at his place and things happened that should not have but we still talk and get along.
Well I have been noticing the last few months that when he sees me out with our daughter and he is with his girlfriend his attention is focused on us and not on his girlfriend. I told him when we were together I would like to try to work things out and now that I have let go of all my animosity towards him and have learned to accept him for who he is, I think it would be a positive move.
I am thinking out of line because he told me not to go there but now he seems to be coming around more. I was just wondering what I should I do? Maybe I am looking into this too much. Waiting to see what you think.
Always,
Bev
Dear Bev,
It is always good to hear from you. My concern with this is that your ex husband is in a relationship with someone else and has indirectly tried to get back with you. I am not sure why you two ended up getting a divorce but I am not sure if you will condone the type of behavior he has been demonstrating, if you were his girlfriend.
If you really want to work something out with your ex husband, I would encourage you two to go to counseling to see if your relationship can be rekindled. I would be concern with his behavior towards his girlfriend as a sign of how he is, or how he can be towards you. If he is treating his girlfriend like this, what makes you think that he will not do it to you?
You may think he may not do the same thing, but think about it, he has been with his girlfriend for two years now and he is exhibiting some very questionable behavior. I really would consider all of this before you decide whether or not you want to try working something out because you do not want to put your children through the turmoil of your relationship with your husband.
Always here,
Jasmine
