Dear Jasmine,
I have a question. I had a fight with this friend a long time ago. We haven’t talked even though she replies to my messages. Last week I went to my graduation and she was there. I ignored her but she congratulated me and also sent a text asking me if I wanted to join our mutual friends for a drink. On Saturday it is my birthday and I am thinking whether to ask her to come with us. Do you think it’s a good idea, since I am not sure if she has forgiven me?
Helen
Berkeley CA
Dear Helen,
I think that you and your friend need to spend some time alone and talk to each other about what happened. I think by her actions, it seems like she is trying to rekindle your friendship. It may put the both of you at ease to know that you both have gotten over the fight. Hopefully she accepted your invitation to your birthday and you guys are working on renewing your friendship with one another.
Since she has taken the first step by asking you to hang out, maybe you should take the first step by asking her to get a drink alone with you and talking things through. If anything, it will give you both a closure about the fight you guys had, even if you guys aren’t going to rebuild on our friendship.
Always here,
Jasmine
