Dear Jasmine,
I have been having problems with my boyfriend’s mother. First of all his mother and I were friends and she was the one who introduced us to one another. He has a little girl by another woman, I have a little girl by another man and we have two children together.
My child is of a mixed race and shortly after she was born, my boyfriend’s mother told me that I was out of my mind if I really thought he would put me and my little n***** baby in front of his daughter. From then on I had nothing to do with her. While I was pregnant with out first child together I felt like I should try again with her and maybe she would want to be apart of her grandchildren’s life and that lasted about 3 months.
The first little thing and she was screaming and hollering at me about how she didn’t want to see me or my children again and could careless and that she was going to whip my ass the next time she saw me. Time went on and I stayed clear from her.
She has since then harassed me and even went as far as calling my boss and trying to get my fired from my job by telling them that I was selling drugs. I took her to the P.A. office and she was told to back off or we would be going to court. Then about 7 months later I thought she may have calmed down and learned her lesson so I sent her a really nice card and apologized and took credit for part of what had gone on between us. She went crazy and she still causes problems between my boyfriend and I.
She flips me off, is very rude to me, sends me emails, sends emails about me to her son, makes things up and has been caught up in her lies, etc. She tries to sneak around and see my children while they are with their other grandmother and take pictures from outside the restaurant. She was recently served paper by the local law enforcement about her other grandchild denying her visitation rights.
The same week she all of sudden had a change of heart by sending me a letter in the mail and told me that she wanted to start over with me and be apart of her granddaughter’s lives. Just seems like she is doing this for another reason besides the right reason.
Could you please give some in insight on what you think I should do about this woman because I really don’t want her to be an influence on my daughters? She has since told me to forget she even tried, didn’t even give me time to reply or think about letting her be apart of my families life again.
Thanks,
Kelle L.
El Dorado, FL
Dear Kelle,
Your boyfriend’s mother seems very unstable. Frankly, I wouldn’t want to have my kids around that type of inappropriate behavior. She seems to have no respect for you or your family. I think you have done enough to try to mend things but her false and insincere attempts shouldn’t be taken to heart. I don’t think she truly wants to work anything out so I would steer clear of her.
You may want to suggest to your boyfriend that his mother has some issues she needs to deal with. I don’t see any reason why you should subject your children to their unstable grandmother. Unless she gets help, which it sounds like she needs, I strongly suggest you keep your kids as far away from her as possible. Don’t let her impart herself or any of her ridiculous ideals on your children.
Always here,
Jasmine
