Dear Jasmine,
I have been off and on with my ex-fiancé for 3 years now. I just broke up with him because I found out he was cheating on me. Before I broke up, we signed a lease together, so now we are living together as friends. We still have sex with each other and spend time with each other as if we are still in a relationship.
We are not together though and just are just friends. My problem is that I told him to respect me and not to have any girls over until my wounds are healed. But I came home one day and he had a girl over. We just broke up 3 weeks and he is already moving on. It hurts me to see him with someone else even though I don’t want him back.
How can I accept that I need to move on and still live with him? He is one of my good friends even though were not together. How can I pretend that seeing him with another girl that I am not jealous or hurt?
Jules
Madison, WI
Dear Jules,
You need to move out! Find someone else to take over your lease, or rent your space out and get the heck out of there. I do not know how you expect yourself to heal while you are allowing yourself to be in this dysfunctional environment and relationship. If you do no want to get back with him, stop sleeping with him! If you want to get over him, move out!
This guy cheated on you and your sleeping with him while he is probably sleeping with other girls. I hope you are using protection; otherwise I would suggest you get yourself check out right away. For the sake of your sanity, you need to move out and now. Stop making excuses because all you’re doing is subjecting yourself the chance to adapt to this dysfunctional relationship.
You deserve better and you aren’t allowing yourself to properly heal and move on to someone way better then your ex boyfriend. Stop creating a prison for yourself by living with your ex boyfriend and make the necessary choices to move out. Mark my words; you will not move on if you stay living with him and if you stay living with him it probably means you don’t want to move on. Come back to reality and do the right thing for yourself.
Always here,
Jasmine
