Dear Jasmine,
I went to a party and got really drunk. So drunk I basically blacked out. However before I got severely intoxicated I met this guy and I had seen him around school with a friend of mine. I asked him about her and he said that he knew her and that she was cool. So the next thing I know I wake up naked with this new friend of mine on top of me in the back of a car.
I freak out and my phone is ringing and it’s my guy friend calling me to come hang out with him. So I get my clothes and keys and leave. On Monday, I go up to my friend and ask her about the guy. She asks me if its the same guy who broke up with her on Saturday night? And of course it was.
So she figures out what happened and confronts me about it. She tells me that was messed up of me and that she thought we were friends. I had no clue that he had broken up with her in that same day and even if I did he took advantage of me. I just want to be friends with her and make amends but its not going to happen.
People say she wants to beat me up and rumors are flying around. It’s awful. What do I do from here? Where do I go from here? She is turning everyone against me.
Alyssa
Nevada
Dear Alyssa,
Let’s face it, when it comes down to it you messed up. Granted the guy did take advantage of you and that was wrong. Let this be a lesson for you that you cannot handle that amount of alcohol, to just say no and stop drinking because look at the mess you are in now. Not only is your friend furious at you, as any normal person would probably be, you have to worry now about this guy who you slept with.
I would suggest you go and get yourself checked out for pregnancy and any conceivable sexually transmitted infection there is out there. Next thing I would suggest is to turn this guy in for rape because that is what it is. You did not consent to having intercourse with him and he took advantage of you while you were intoxicated. Don’t let this guy get away with taking advantage of you because chances are has been doing it for a long time and will continue to do so until someone reports him.
I think you probably have tried to explain your situation to your friend but she obviously doesn’t care to hear it. Cut your losses and take this as a lesson and learn from it. Don’t go overboard on alcohol if you cannot handle it because the consequences are just not worth it. Not only did you lose a friend, you could’ve lost a lot more. Now go get yourself checked out to make sure you didn’t pick up anything from this guy.
Always here,
Jasmine
