Dear Jasmine,
I interviewed for a job last month and an older married man interviewed me. He offered me the position and when I accepted the job he asked me out to dinner to celebrate. We sat at the bar and just got appetizers and a couple of drinks. We both flirted around with each other and by the end of the night I was drinking from his wine glass and he was rubbing on my back.
When we got ready to leave he walked me to my car holing my hand and then he kissed me and asked if he could get in the car with me. I told him I had to go home. I have had this evening on my mind ever since it happened but he has not mentioned it to me. The next night he asked me out to dinner and did not make a move on me we just talked. I start my new job next Tuesday and I would like to talk to him because I find myself thinking about the kiss over and over again. I am attracted to him but I am not sure if he is interested anymore. What do I need to do?
Erica S.
Paintsville, KY
Dear Erica,
Your boss sounds like a sleaze ball to me. If I were you I would reconsider working there with him because of his behavior towards you. Office romances are never a good idea, and from the looks of it, your boss cannot decide if he likes you or not. If you really want to pursue this, I would suggest you talk to him about it and asked him about the night. That could go badly because he could be trying to play it off as if it never happen and if you mention it he may be scared you will report him, and who knows, maybe he even has a family.
However, if you just want to drop this issue and move on, for the sake of your job, then just make sure this kind of thing isn’t a regular reoccurrence or you could have sexual harassment on your hands. If this does happen again, I would strongly suggest that you do report him because this type of behavior is just inappropriate.
Always here,
Jasmine
