Dear Jasmine.
I have a quite a big problem. I have this friend who is popular and we know practically all the same people but they seem to like her better. I know this because she is my best friend in the whole wide world and she tells me everything. It hurts when she tells me about the people who called her when those same people never call me back.
I don’t know what to do because she is really popular and gets invited to kickbacks and shows and I am like seen as the back up like when she can’t go somewhere (which is rare) they ask me to go or she asks me to go with her and I feel like I am tagging along with her. I just want to be my own person and have people like me cause I am a great person but people don’t see that.
I try and be nice and socialize but it always comes down to who you know and what you know. I just don’t know what to do because I want to be liked but I don’t know how to make it happen.
Mike
Las Vegas, NV
Dear Mike,
I think you shouldn’t focus on your friend so much or compare yourself to her. Everyone is different in their own way and no two people will ever be the same. You and your best friend are obviously different in many ways and she may be popular or more popular then you, but you should not let that overshadow you or who you are. I think you are too fixated on your friend and that has caused you to be more cautious of yourself.
I would suggest that instead of waiting for people to invite you somewhere, why don’t you invite them somewhere? Plan a bowling day, movie day or some other fun activity that everyone enjoys and try to get all your friends together for some fun. I think that could be one of the first steps to show your friends that you want to hang out with them too. Just be yourself and have fun. Stop comparing yourself to others and enjoy the friends that do like you for who you are because that is very hard to find nowadays.
Always here,
Jasmine
