Dear Jasmine,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and now that we are in our senior year. We will soon be parted when we go to college. He told me that if I was to choose the college that he was attending that he would dump me. He also said that he may end up cheating on me with someone else. It worries me because I love him and never want something to happen between us.
When I asked him why he was so distant and he said it was just because he was thinking about stuff he couldn’t tell me and that also worries me cause we should be able to tell each other everything. What do you think? Should worry or am I just making this into a bigger deal then it should be?
Aletheia
Dekalb JCT. NY
Dear Aletheia,
It sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t want to be with you anymore but doesn’t know how to tell you directly. I think he has indirectly tried to tell you that he wants to break up by telling you that if you choose to go to his college that he will dump you. Most couples would love to go to the same college together, but most certainly they would not tell their partner that if they were to choose the same college that their relationship would be over. I think he is trying to tell you that he doesn’t want to be with you but he just hasn’t said it to your directly.
Also him telling you that he may cheat on you sounds like he is not very committed to you and again it sounds like he wants you to break up with him so he doesn’t have to do it. I think that you should have a serious talk with him because if he doesn’t want to be with you, right now may be the time for you two to end your relationship before you both head off to college, where it may be more complicated for you two. I think that he is trying to take the easy way out and force you to break up with him and if that is the case, I think you need to lose this guy and move on.
You shouldn’t have to worry about your boyfriend cheating on you and your boyfriend shouldn’t be telling you that he may cheat on you. By him telling you that, it really does seem as if he does want you to break up with him because who would want to be with someone who tells them that they may end cheating on them. Stop listening to your heart and starting listening to your head. Your are right to think something is going on and it is time for you to clear things up so you can move on.
Always here,
Jasmine
