Dear Jasmine,
Hello, it’s Matt again, back for more advice. For the past year, I have been talking to one of my Gay friends. His name is Nick. We would talk to each other and talk about guys. We have the typical girl talk with each other.
As of a few weeks ago, I started to have more of a crush but towards a slight liking in him. We are both into pretty much of the same things. The thing is we are very good friends, more like best friends. If I tell him, that I like him then I would not know how he would react to it.
I would not want to hurt him, nor ruin our friendship. There might be a chance he likes me too but I am not going to think that, but who knows I guess.
Matt T.
Thousand Oaks, CA
Dear Matt,
Welcome back! Since you have developed a friendship with Nick, I can see why you are hesitating to tell him about your feelings because you don’t want to lose the friendship. What you have to think about is the consequences of telling him or not.
First of all if you do tell him and he does not feel the same way, then things may be awkward between you guys, but at least you will know how he feels. That is a risk you may have to take if you want to know how he truly feels towards you. Or he could be into you too and you two could develop a relationship with one another. The consequences are at two ends of the spectrum but you have to weigh the risk.
Personally, I think it is unhealthy for you to hold in these feelings and it is better to work through your friendship even if he doesn’t have feelings for you. It is better for you to know then pine away at him and spend all this time trying to figure out whether or not he likes you or not. At the end you need to figure out for yourself what you want out of this friendship with him and be ready to face the consequences of your actions.
Always here,
Jasmine
