Dear Jasmine,
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now. I really love her and want to consider marrying her but I have one big problem. Her family hates me because I am not in the same religion as they are. I never spend time with her with her family because they refuse to acknowledge me. They even try setting her up on dates even though we are together.
My girlfriend said things would eventually get better, but it has been 2 years and it hasn’t changed a bit. I want to marry her but I don’t know if I can be in a relationship with her if her family refuses to accept me. There are times where she has to go somewhere with her family and they set her up with someone and I get so angry that I want to just end the relationship.
She says that she doesn’t want to upset her parents more then she already has by dating me but she feels that I need to give them more time to accept me. But how long is too long?
Taylor R.
Chicago, IL
Dear Taylor,
I would say 2 years is already a really long time. If you can’t withstand the fact that her parents don’t like you, then I don’t see how you can have a long relationship with her. It doesn’t look like she will stand up to her parents anytime soon. It’s not like she has to have her parents like you but they should at least respect their daughter and the fact that she is in a committed relationship.
If she can’t get her parents to do that, you will either have to grin it and bear it or part ways. You can’t force her parents to accept you or respect you and I don’t know if she can either but she should at least respect your relationship enough to draw the line somewhere.
Always here,
Jasmine
