Dear Jasmine,
I have been friends with my ex since a year after we broke up. That was way back in 2005 that we started talking again. At first he was awkward sitting near me but since 2006, he has been ok with it. He confides in me, typically when he is insecure.
Recently he asked me why I don’t date. We have both been single for about 3 years now. I told him the reason, which is I am afraid to really commit with someone. He started to argue with me, trying to prove me wrong.
Finally he asked me if he told me he cared before and never stopped and that he wanted a serious relationship and would I still say no. I then told him no so he went on to say that he only asked to see my response.
He tries to play it like I still have feelings for him when I don’t. Is he pretending to not like me? Did he say he just asked to see what I said because I didn’t say what he wanted to hear? I am so confused with his strange behavior.
Diana F.
Washougal, WA
Dear Diana,
It sounds as if your ex boyfriend may want to rekindle your relationship and was asking you those hypothetical questions to see what your response would be. I think what you need to be concern with is how you feel. You obviously have no more feelings for him so just be straight forward that you just want to be friends.
If he continues to act strange then perhaps you need to limit the amount of time you spend with him. Let him know that you enjoy and value his friendship and you don’t want to date him or anyone else right now. Hopefully he will get the point this time around.
Always here,
Jasmine
