Dear Jasmine,
I am having some problems with my sister. She just got married last month and I think she is very unhappy in her marriage. Every time I stop by her house, she seems stressed out and her husband is never there. They only knew each other for less then a year before they got married.
I don’t want to be out of place and butt into her business but I am very concern about her. I want to try to help her if I can. Do you think that I should tell my parents about it? They have been asking me a lot about her lately because they live out of state and she never answers her phone.
I have brushed them off by saying she is okay but I feel like I am lying because I don’t feel that she is doing okay at all. How do you think I should approach this situation?
Melody T.
New York, NY
Dear Melody,
I think that you should talk to your sister the next time you drop by. Don’t come right out and say you think she is doing bad in her marriage because she could get defensive. Rather just sit down and talk to her about what is going on in her life and let her feel comfortable enough to talk to you.
You could drop hints as in asking where her husband is all the time but don’t over do it and let her feel as if she needs to defend herself. Just try to be supportive of her and let her come out to you when she is comfortable.
I would suggest you to tell her that you support her and will always be there for her if she needs you. That way, when she is ready, she can talk to you about what is going on with her.
Always here,
Jasmine
