Dear Jasmine,
I have been with my boyfriend 3 months and love him dearly. He wants me to move in and I am happy to but I am sure he still holds a candle for his ex girlfriend. He told me that she was the love of his life and they parted through no choice of their own.
They were together for 3 years and lived together and broke up 3 years ago. She is on his online website which makes me think they are still in contact. Up until a month ago he said he was single on his online page and until I confronted him about it, he changed it.
I am going out of my mind with worry and jealousy which isn’t like me. I am 27 years old and he is 33 years old. Should I confront him and how should I do it?
I feel like he compares me to her. When he talks about her I can sense he talks about her with the utmost respect. It is really chipping at my self confidence.
Leigh
Northern Ireland
Dear Leigh,
I don’t think there needs to be a confrontation but rather an open dialogue on the matter. I suggest that you sit him down and tell him how you feel about his relationship with his ex girlfriend.
Ask him to be honest with you and to let you know if there are any feelings left because if there is then he is not being fair to you by stringing you along until maybe one day she wants to be with him again. Bottom line is if you cannot trust him, then this may not be the right guy for you.
Always here,
Jasmine
