Dear Jasmine,
I started dating a great guy two months ago. We live in two different cities, so Thursday night through Monday morning one of us is visiting the other person. I am happy to do this, and he feels the same way and it doesn’t bother either of us.
I have this friend who is very jealous of the amount of time I am spending with him and she sends me emails about how I am not spending time with her, she is also very rude in these emails. I have been kind of avoiding her because I feel uncomfortable being around her, because I feel she is just mad at me.
She is unwilling to visit with me during the week, and says that on the weekends she wants to hang out but doesn’t want my boyfriend to come. I cannot just leave him sitting in my apartment by himself. I am so overjoyed with my new boyfriend but I feel I can’t even share this information with her, because it will just make her more angry with me.
I am getting to the point where I don’t even want to talk to her anymore. How should I go about handling this situation with her? Should I respond to her emails and tell her how I feel or just ignore her snide remarks?
Megan
Austin, TX
Dear Megan,
It sounds like your friend is jealous of your new found relationship. I would ask you to write her an email or call her and ask her to meet you up during the weekday if possible because you want to talk to her. If she refuses then write her an email and explain to her the situation.
It sounds like you are trying to balance out your life, if your friend is truly busy on the weekdays and the weekends are the only time she can hang out, then perhaps if you want to spend time with her, you need to shorten your visits to your boyfriends and maybe come home on a Sunday to hang out with her.
But I would first have a talk with her to get to the bottom of things because it sounds like there are some other problems going on in your relationship and it is coming out in this negative manner. Clear the air with her before you make any rash decisions about your friendship.
Always here,
Jasmine
