Dear Jasmine,
I am in need of serious help. I have been with my man on and off for eight years and we have a 2 year old daughter together. I love him so much and want to be with him forever, but I have a problem.
My younger sister, who just so happens to be stunningly beautiful has become best friends with him. She and I have been best friends forever but lately seem to be drifting apart. The more we drift apart the closer they seem to drift together.
They have so much more in common than my boyfriend and I and I know they talk about every problem that comes up in our relationship. She always agrees with him and says that she needs to find herself a man like him. I am glad that two people I love so much are close, but I can’t help but wonder if they are too close.
They act like I am crazy when I express my concerns, and I feel stupid. I can’t help but wonder if they are closer than they should be. Please help me.
Ashley
Las Vegas, NV
Dear Ashley,
I do not think you are crazy at all and believe you have a valid reason to be concern. It seems as if their relationship may be somewhat inappropriate and you need to let them know that. There is a boundary that should not be crossed by the both of them and they seem to have done it.
While it is great for them to be friends but they need to respect your relationship and your feelings. I do think that their relationship is questionable and if you cannot trust him or your sister, I say you trust your instincts and drop this guy.
You shouldn’t have to compete for your boyfriend’s attention, especially when your sister is involved. Quite frankly, it sounds like your sister is quite selfish and doesn’t care about your feelings at all. I would be watchful of both your sister and your boyfriend because they don’t sound like they are too much about their relationship with you.
Always here,
Jasmine
