Dear Jasmine,
I think my son’s marriage may be in trouble. I have a precious 7 week old granddaughter whom I don’t want to see be the product of a broken home but that is my fear. My daughter-in-law is lazy.
My son does all the cooking, cleaning, washing clothes and helps care for the baby. I have seen signs of him being at his breaking point and I can’t blame him. I told him of my fears before he married her because I could see that she was not bringing anything to the marriage.
They have been married almost 4 years. I think her mother should step in and tell her if she doesn’t do better she will lose him but then she is a lot like her mother.
Her mother does cook but I think that her father does a lot of the cleaning. As the mother-in-law, I can’t say anything but I see my son hurting and it hurts me.
Donna H.
USA
Dear Donna,
The problem is your son allowing her to get away with this for four years and she has probably grown accustom to this type of lifestyle. It is not your job or her mother’s job to tell her how to be in her marriage, even if it is the right thing.
You guys can always help guide her but when it comes down to it your son is the one that needs to start growing a spine and standing up for himself and his family. Unless your son is willing to stand up and let her know that she is not contributing to their marriage and it could be headed for trouble then your son is also a large part of the problem.
Always here,
Jasmine
