Dear Jasmine,
I am having trust issues with my girlfriend. I found out she is text messaging an ex boyfriend. She claims he is crazy and won’t leave her alone. She dated him about 4 years ago and then dated another guy for two years. She cheated on the both of her ex boyfriends.
I found a text message from her ex that indicated that they shouldn’t be cheating on their boyfriend or girlfriends, etc. A week later I asked when she had talked to him last and she said months.
I said she is lying. She looked me in the eyes and promised that she was telling the truth. I told her I saw the messages and she said she forgot. Later she admits he sends texts every so often. She claims that he is crazy and won’t leave her alone even though she has asked.
She says she didn’t tell me about him because she wanted to protect our relationship. Am I being jealous for no reason? Should I trust her? How can we fix these scars?
John J.
Arizona
Dear John,
I don’t understand why you didn’t ask her then and there when you found the text message. Even though you asked her, you know she is lying to you and probably cheating on you. However, it seems as if you are in denial of it even though you know it is probably true.
I don’t know how you can trust her after all the lies she has told you. I think the worse thing is that you are allowing her to step all over you and lie straight to your face while you know it is a lie but ignore it. If you stay with her, I predict that she is probably cheating on you and will continue to lie to you as long as you allow her to.
Save yourself the heartache and find yourself someone who is honest with you and you don’t have to question their honesty because obviously this girl cannot be trusted.
Always here,
Jasmine
