Dear Jasmine,
I am 40 and my parents had friends since I was 8 years old, who they were very close with. My parents were swingers with this couple. I knew it for years and tried to hide the embarrassment I had as many people in town and my family would talk about their suspicions.
My parents got divorced only a few years ago. It started out amicable. My dad was going to move out and my mom’s ex-best friend decided to leave her husband and go with my dad.
They have lived together for 10 years and now are getting married in August. My mom forbids us to have her at any of our family functions, which at this point, we haven’t.
I don’t like the woman and never did even when my parents were friends with her. I don’t plan to invite her to my house for anything. Don’t I have the right to say who I can invite to my house?
D.M.
Brick, NJ
Dear D.,
I can understand why your mother may not like this woman but that doesn’t mean you have to not invite her to your house. It is your house and you can choose who to invite and who not to invite. If your mother cannot be mature enough to handle the situation, then perhaps she shouldn’t attend.
Obviously the situation is less then pretty but your mother needs to move on, it has been 10 years. Not to point the finger at her but I don’t know how she can be mad when she choose to live that lifestyle in the first place.
That was very open minded of her and she needs to be more opened minded now and also be more mature about the whole situation. It is not as if they are still married or anything and for the sake of family harmony she needs to let this go.
Always here,
Jasmine
