Dear Jasmine,
First I just would like to say that I am glad that I found this web site because I have been looking from some advice on my most cared about relationship. So, thank you for having this web site.
One days ago, I was hanging out with my best friend and her brother. My friend once told me that she had sex with her boyfriend. There was a song on and was talking about how many times he had had sex and I jokingly put up four fingers and she not jokingly put up three. I flipped out and I yelled at her and his brother figured out what was going on.
The problem is that she protected him from all that she could and then he sees this about her, he also tells everything to their parents. So we fought and I realized why me flipping out was so bad and now I really feel bad.
We talked and she’s going to tell her parents that she’s having sex and that she had been having the right protection. So now what I want advice on is my next move, she told me that she still loves me but doesn’t like me. I just want to know how to move on and regain her trust and become her best friend once more.
Sharon D.
Louisville, KY
Dear Sharon,
I do think that your reaction was somewhat strange because even if she put up three fingers in a non-joking manner, only you would know that. However, your reaction has sparked the problem of letting her brother know as well. I am sure that when your friend told you about her and her boyfriend, she told you in confidence.
I think the thing for you to do is give your friend some time to get over it. Let her know that you value her friendship and that you are sorry for what you did and next time you will think about it before you burst out something that you shouldn’t have.
These things will take time but if you two are truly meant to be friends, she will forgive you over time and you two can work it out. Just be patient and remember to think about the consequences before you speak the next time around.
Always here,
Jasmine
