Dear Jasmine,
I have been talking to this guy that lives in North Carolina since March. We use to talk on the phone daily for hours at a time. He came to see me for a weekend a few weeks ago. I really enjoyed the visit just as much as he did.
I really like him but I am afraid that he will think I am trying to rush things with him. I am a very emotional person who likes to express my feelings to the person. We do not talk as much but we still talk daily.
He use to initiate most the phone calls and now it is me. He will say that he will call me back and he does not call me. Sometime it hurts that he does not call me like he stated. Although he plans to visit me again, I am thinking of tell him not to do anymore visit because I know that my feelings for him will change if he keeps blowing me off.
For instance, I called him tonight, left a message for him to call me. When he calls back, he complains of a headache and said he was going to lay down. I go online about 10 minutes later and he is logged online. I was pissed but I am not sure how to tell him that I am getting upset with him being that he is far away.
I do not want to argue or fight with him but it is hurting me when he does this. I do not want to seem like I a bug-a-boo or something. It is more of an emotional relationship in my opinion.
Thanks a bunch,
Michelle
Tampa, FL
Dear Michelle,
I know you may not want to hear this but he may not be as involved or into this relationship as you are. To save yourself from being hurt, I think you need to talk to him and find out if he is interested or not because if not then you need to start moving on with your life instead of getting mad at him for every little thing which can be frustrating since he is so far away from you.
There is nothing wrong in talking to him to find out where he stands in this relationship because it will save you a lot of time, energy and heartache in the end to find out now rather then later.
Always here,
Jasmine
