Dear Jasmine,
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. His mother recently came to visit us. This is the first time she has been up since he has lived here. She is very rich and really likes to talk about her money. She is 53 years old and constantly talks about guys always hitting on her.
Everyone tells her how beautiful she is, including my boyfriend. Their relationship is unsettling to me. She brought him a ring from one of her extravagant trips and he wore it on his wedding finger? They are very physical with each other. He smacks her on the behind and doesn’t call her mother.
He calls her “baby”. He acts as if I am absurd by thinking anything strange, but I just feel so uncomfortable with their relationship. What makes it worse is that back when he was 13 years old, she sent him away. She wanted to get rid of him.
Then he was later practically raised by his grandmother. You see, his mother was too busy for him. So he is constantly feigning for her love and attention. It is almost nauseating! The worst part is sitting and listening to him swoon over her when she talks about traveling, her money, her cars and all the celebrities she knows.
What should I do? I have been nothing but kind to her, but how do I learn to deal with this situation? I need some good heart-felt advice, or the number of a good gun salesman;) Please help!
Christy
USA
Dear Christy,
Don’t blame you one bit for being sick of it. However, I think that you either have to suck it up and deal with it while she is around or you need to get out of this relationship. Sounds like very strange behavior and you are right to think its weird.
However, it is not uncommon for children to want their parents attention but it is absolutely inappropriate for your boyfriend to refer to her as “baby”or anything other then mom, etc. If your boyfriend intends to keep this type of behavior, you will have to either accept it or move on. That’s just the bottom line. Personally, I would run towards the door and not look back.
I don’t know if I would want to stick around to find out what is really going on. It may not be something you want to know.
Always here,
Jasmine
