Dear Jasmine,
Last August I paid my best friend visit in California. He is in a band of five guys. While I was out there I had slept with one of the band members. My best friend was fully aware of the situation since I told him before it actually happened.
Almost 9 months later, my best friend and I have finally admitted our feelings for one another. We have a beautiful relationship filled with honesty, trust, loyalty, communication and unconditional love. The problem is now that we are together, he has to deal with that guy I had slept with all the time.
He is tormented as he can’t get the whole thing out of his head. He has been having problems with this guy for many years now and he hates the fact that me and this guy from the band was together.
He even tried to kick this guy out of the band way before we started dating. He loves me but can’t deal with me and this guy. I don’t know how to help him except to listen to him. Do you have any advice I can maybe pass on to him or what do you think will happen to us. We have been best friends for 7 years and completely in love with each other.
Please help!Miss torment
Montreal, Canada
Dear Miss,
Your boyfriend has to know that you have a past. He needs to start acting more mature about the situation because he cannot let his affect his band. The fact of the matter is that this happened in the past and he can either move on from it or torture everyone around him with his disgust.
He may not like the fact that you were with this guy but it happened and he needs to accept it or perhaps you both are just setting up your relationship for doom. Decide now whether or not this is something he can deal with because if it is not, it will eventually drive him crazy.
Always here,
Jasmine
