Dear Jasmine,
I think that my common law husband is cheating. I got this gut feeling at the end of June this year, when he got up real early in the morning and had a shower and shaved before he left for work, which he never does because his job is real dirty and he showers after work. I decided to keep track of his hours and it didn’t add up.
Then 2 weeks ago I slept on the couch and caught him sneaking out of the house at 4:30am and he doesn’t have answers on why he left at 4:30am but I have this gut feeling that he is cheating.
Can you please give me advice on if you think this sounds like cheating and how to go about it to get him to tell me, I am a mother of 5 and 4 of the children are his, my youngest are 4 year old twin boys, I feel stressed and have a hard time taking care of the kids. I can’t believe after 13 years somebody can keep lying to me.
He use to look at porn all the time and go on chatting date lines. He never comes near me unless we are in closed doors and he talks to me in a rude way when other people are around.
Thanks,
Joanne B.
Barrie, Ontario, Canada
Dear Joanne,
Do I think he is cheating? I think you know the answer to that one. It sure does sound like he is cheating and even if he wasn’t, the way he treats you is appalling. I can see why you are stressed out, between the kids, the cheating and his controlling his behavior, it is a miracle that you haven’t gone crazy yet.
Even if he wasn’t cheating on you, I don’t think he is the right kind of guy for you. Is he the kind of guy you want to be with for the rest of your life? Look at his track record and ask yourself how long you want to put up with it. Leaving is hard but sometimes living with it is harder.
Always here,
Jasmine
