Dear Jasmine,
My best friend is in the army. Before he left he told me that he didn’t want to get in a relationship because it would be too hard to leave and that is why we didn’t get together. But he asked a girl out the day before he left.
About 2 weeks before he left, he told me that he wanted to see what happens between us and that he still cared about me. And recently his girlfriend cheated on him with another guy. I told him about it and he said he could tell she wanted to be with the other guy.
But now he is mad at me when I was the one telling the truth. He is known me for over a year and knows I wouldn’t lie about something like that. He h;s known her for about 6 months. I just don’t get how he could choose her over me. I don’t know what to do.
K.
Ford City, PA
Dear K,
One year is actually not a very long time. Six months to one year is relativity not very long and the time period should not really be a factor. It is the depth of the relationship that really counts. However, it seems that you may be the only person in this friendship that considers it to be of some value.
This guy sounds like he is just stringing you along, while he has other girls too. He doesn’t sound like he really likes you, rather he just wants you to want to be with him so he can have a variety of options when you comes back from the service.
If he wants to be with this other girl or just other girls in general, don’t lose sleep over it. He doesn’t really sound too into you and you deserve better then that.
Always here,
Jasmine
