Dear Jasmine,
I lost my job due to downsizing and got hired at a new job but the job will not be ready for me for another two months. I am a single mother of two. The only income I have currently is child support until my new job starts. It has been financially very hard. My boyfriend of 1 year knows this. I don’t know of any job where I can respectfully work only to quit in 8 weeks and feel good doing so to any employer that hires me. I would feel awful doing that to them.
Regretfully one day I asked my boyfriend for a loan. We do not live together. He makes good money and has no obligations to anyone other than his own living expenses. I was praying that knowing my current situation he would offer to help like a lot of boyfriends do. I never expected him to nor have I ever asked for anything from him before in the year we have been together.
I was just secretly praying he would as any girl would under the circumstances. I am a professional and not a load or free loader. He asked me how much I needed and I told him. He said he would loan me the money and that it was not a gift and I was expected to pay him back. Am I wrong to be hurt he was so abrupt? I feel like he didn’t give me chance to tell him I would pay him back before saying it.
Edie S
Sharon, PA
Dear Edie,
It sounds like your boyfriend may have been a little bit insensitive at the time but the fact is what he is saying is true. Not everyone sugar coats things and perhaps he has had a bad experience that made him respond the way he does.
It is well known that many times, people don’t pay each other back and by him saying it, he probably has either experienced it himself or he has seen it around him and doesn’t want it to happen to him. Can’t really blame the guy, at least he is helping you out. You should look pass this and just be grateful he is helping you out and repay him as soon as you can.
Always here,
Jasmine
