Dear Jasmine,
The summer before the beginning of 8th grade, two of my friends were going to sleep over, and we were going to sleep outside. One of my friends was already over, and we were calling the other one. She said she was coming and she never showed up.
The next day we called her and her other friend answered. She ditched us. I was already sort of mad because she lied to me and ditched me a week before all of this. I then decided that I was going to be mad.
About a week later I got over it and approached the friend to talk to her. She informed me that she was mad at me for being mad at her. She is spreading rumors about my friends and saying I started them. I now hang out with a lot of guy friends.
I lost just about all of my closest friends, and it has been more than half a school year, but they’re all mad. I’m starting to think they’re not actual friends. True friends wouldn’t believe the rumors. I don’t want to just let them go though because I had some of the best times of my life with them.
What should I do? Do you know if there is any way I can change this?
Chelsea P.
Pittsburgh, PA
USA
Dear Chelsea,
You are right about true friends. Although it is hard to admit that some friends aren’t always true friends, you need to recognize it and move on so you don’t dwell on people who aren’t true to you.
What does make it hard is the good times you guys had but what you have to remember is that is in the past. The good times are gone. You have learned an important lesson in what a true friend is so the next time around you will know how a true friend should treat one another.
The end to any relationship is hard but the one thing people need to realize is when it is the end, you need to let go. Holding on will just deepen the pain and drag it out for longer then it needs to be.
Focus on your future and be mindful of the friends you do have and will make. Friends come and go but true friends will always be there for you.
Always here,
Jasmine
