Dear Jasmine,
I am having problems at home with my best friend who lives with me. Ever since she moved in, and even before, it has been about her. It’ like my mom gives her all these wonderful things that I don’t have.
Like, for example, she got a brand new car for Christmas, and it has everything perfect like an iPod hook-up – everything. My car is used, it is loud, the brakes squeal (even though they are new) and I wanted an iPod dock for it.
Like, even her room is magnificent; walk-in closest, 40-something inch, HD television, her own bathroom. I make really good grades, and my friend doesn’t. But when it is time for grades to come in, and I show them to my mom, I don’t get a congrats or anything. But she will cheer on my friend just because her brought her F to a low D.
I am being totally ignored in my own house. (Not that I was praised before she moved in) What can I do?
Heather
Dear Heather,
This is tough. I am guessing your mom may be over compensating for your friend because she feels bad for her and the fact that she cannot be living with her own parents.
It is ironic because she is treating you, her daughter just as badly. My suggestion for you is to talk to your mom. Not a screaming match or anything but be mature, sit her down and tell her how you feel.
Let her know that you don’t understand why your friend is getting all these new things and the reasoning behind it. There may be some underlying reason you don’t know about that may help clear it up. Also mention to her that although you don’t need all these expensive things, sometimes you feel ignored by her when you do well in school, etc. Hopefully this will open up your moms eyes to how you have been feeling.
Either way you need to talk to your mom and not your friend about this because the root of the problem is not your friend, but your mom.
Always here,
Jasmine
