Dear Jasmine,
I am in a huge confusing mess in my life right now. I met a guy right before Thanksgiving and we messed around and he ended up telling me he loved me a few weeks later. Over the weeks I had fallen head over heels for him. I have never felt this way about anyone before.
I was living with my best friend at the time and she would tell me these horrible, mean things about the guy. She would not stop no matter how upset I got over what she would say. We ended up not talking for awhile and I moved out.
He started talking to me 2 weeks ago. Then he stopped for a few days. I told him I didn’t want to play these games that I was done with him and it hurt extremely bad to say that to him. Now he is talking to me and told me two days ago that we need to talk but he has not said anything else about when or what he wants to talk about.
He is not the type of guy to ever say that! I love him so much and it hurts so bad that I cry almost every night and I can hardly sleep. I feel horrible all day!
I am usually a happy care free person but all of this with him I’m different. How do I get him to listen and tell me what he wants from me? I just want him to tell me if he wants to stay with me or want me to leave him alone?
Danielle L.
La Porte, IN
USA
Dear Danielle,
It sounds like this guy is unsure of what he wants. Bottom line is, if he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t be doing this to you. Even though things seemed all brand new and dandy at first, now you see the real side of things.
You may not want to believe it because you think he is a good guy and he wouldn’t say or do certain things. The fact of the matter is, you need to forget what you think he is like and actually see him for who is he. How he is treating you now.
Perhaps the guy you fell in love with, is not the guy he truly is. I know its hard to move on when you have so many feelings for him, but if you continue to tolerate this kind of behavior, you are just setting yourself for more heartache in the future.
Your everyday life and feelings should never revolve around one person. That is an unhealthy way to live. Sure, we have our down moments and may not be our cheerful self, but never let anyone be the sole cause of your happiness. You need to find other things in your life that make you happy and not just let it be about a relationship. Until you can find happiness with yourself without a guy, it may be best for you to stay away from relationships. You need to find a balance within yourself and be content.
Always here,
Jasmine
