Dear Jasmine,
I have been seeing my boyfriend for 9 months and we are currently living together. He has been in rehab for alcoholism for the past 3 months during which he confessed he didn’t love me and has been talking to his ex-wife.
He told me he wasn’t sure what he wants. So in November, I moved back to Tennessee and he called me and told me that he wanted to be with me so I came back. I found out that on New Years Eve he still wasn’t sure if he wanted to be with me.
I saw him while he was at rehab, we talked some things out but now that he is home, I am just not sure anymore. He says that he cares and that I am the first person he has met in life that genuinely cares for him
Michelle Q.
Columbia, SC
USA
Dear Michelle,
I can see why you have your doubts, since he basically treated you like a yo-yo. You have only been together for nine months and three of them were spent in rehab. Doesn’t that say something? Some girls are into the whole save the guy routine. I don’t know if you are one of these girls, but those relationships tend not to work out, or in most cases the girls stay with the guy but it’s either a physical or emotion abuse.
It sounds like this guy isn’t sure what he wants. What if he had feelings for his ex wife but she rejected him so now he came crawling back to you?
I know its great to say you help a guy out of rehab and that you changed him, but truthfully, if a guy needs that much changing and if he is unsure of his feelings for you, don’t you see the red flags?
Always here,
Jasmine
