Dear Jasmine,
I have fallen in love with my ex-girlfriend after meeting her 8 years ago. We broke up because I was too immature and didn’t realize how much she loved me. Now we made up.
She is divorced with two little kids and I am married with a small child. I am not happy in my marriage. I am madly in love with my ex-girlfriend.
Since the 8 years, I have become very successful. Dated several girls and none of them scaled up to my ex. What do I do?
Rodrigo D.
New York, NY
USA
Dear Rodrigo,
You are married with a child. This is not the time to think solely of you. Your time to be selfish is over because you now have to put the best interest of this child at heart.
I would say that this infatuation with your ex-girlfriend has consumed you for way too long and you should have never gotten married, much less have a child if you were not sure. Were you just waiting for her to be single so you guys can be together? How do you think what your actions of wanting to get back with your ex-girlfriend will have on your wife and your child? Or does none of that matter to you?
If you are having problems in your marriage and you are unhappy, then you need to speak up about it with your wife. You need to work on your marriage for the sake of your child. If you do not want to continue to be with your wife, I would suggest that you not have any more children with her because once things gets all complicated, the thing you don’t need is to screw with their life.
I know you don’t want to hear this but the best thing for your child, is for you to work hard on your marriage and have a happy home. However, if you can’t work it out, I think you should stay in the marriage and make it a good environment for your child, even if you are not happy with your wife. Then after your child grows up and leaves the home, it would be a better time for you to divorce your wife.
You made vows, for better or for worse when you got married. It would be a shame for you to not attempt to follow through with them.
Always here,
Jasmine
