Dear Jasmine,
I really want a boyfriend, but I am the fat girl. I like this one guy because he is nice and doesn’t make fun of me. I think he might like me but I am too scared to tell him or ask him because he is always with his friends.
I am also afraid he will change and make fun of the fact that I can’t even get a boyfriend like everyone else does. I weight 178 pounds and when ever I get mad they say “Uh oh, she might sit on you!!” and I don’t know how to deal with that. Please help me! I am the desperate fat girl!
Paige B.
Mechanicsville, VA
USA
Dear Paige,
To start off, the issue may be your own self image of who you are. I am not sure what your height is, but I assume that you are overweight due to your letter. I would suggest that you start getting involved in more activities and perhaps some exercise classes. This way, you can start getting healthy and meeting new people. It is way more important for you to focus on yourself and not only finding a boyfriend. A relationship will find its way but along the way you need to take better care of yourself.
To address the issue of the boy that you like, just because someone doesn’t make fun of you like everyone else does, doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you. It could mean that his parents brought him up right and not to make fun of people. In relationships, perhaps physical attraction is the most obvious when you meet someone, but having a friendship and getting to know the person is important.
I think for now you should focus on yourself, getting healthly and making some friends who share the same interest as you. I am not sure if you act angry when people make fun of you, but if they do, don’t react to them at all. They want to get a reaction out of you so by getting upset or talking back to them will just rile them up. Don’t let others who don’t know any manners to get you down.
Always here,
Jasmine
