Dear Jasmine,
My best friend Melinda was killed in a car wreck 2 years ago. The pain of her being gone consumes me everyday. How can I get past it or move on like so many tell me that I need to do? I am so afraid that if I do move on, I will forget about her.
Rob A.
Kansas City, MI
Dear Rob,
Losing a friend, or anyone is never an easy thing. Little things remind you of them and from time to time you will feel sad. One thing that I have found that is helpful is to remember who your friend is and how much they care about you. Even though they are gone, they would not want to you to mourn their death forever. You are too consume with the fact that she is gone, you are forgetting to remember all the good times. Maybe you do remember the good times and wish you could still have them.
Reality is, she is gone, and she would not want you to be in so much pain. She is already gone now, do you want her to be sadden by the fact that you are in so much pain? I am sure she cared very much for you and would want you to live your life. Just because you move on from the fact that she has died, doesn’t mean you will forget her.
The truth is, even if you don’t remember her all the time, she has become a part of you, because she was in your life, she has made an impact in your life. Instead of reliving the pain everyday, be grateful. Be grateful that you were able to share a part of her life with her and that you were so blessed. Remember it as something beautiful and not focus on the negative.
Make the experience of your friendship a positive thing. Yes, she has passed but you were so bless to have her in your life, and in ways she will always be a part of your life, through your life and through your memories of her that you carry within you.
Always here,
Jasmine
