Dear Jasmine,
It sucks when you love someone but they don’t feel the same way, and then they give the love that should be yours to someone else who is completely wrong for them! I love this one guy and I know that if he gave me a chance we could be very happy together and I would be the best thing. However, he likes someone else! It pisses me off so much!
He is my best friend and he tells me he loves me and thanks God for me everyday that he has someone like me, and that he does like me more than a friend; however, thinks we live too far away! We live only one hour away! Anyways, this girl I feel doesn’t even deserve him and he shouldn’t be wasting his time! At the same time, I have a boyfriend, as well. And sadly I just am not in love with him, or have feelings.
My boyfriend is a great guy, but I can’t feel what I feel for my best friend, for him. Some may say I am being a jerk and leading my boyfriend on; however, I am not or at least that is not my intention! I just wish my best friend loved me, too! I wish he would open his pretty eyes and see what is right in front of him!
Aliana D.
Woodland, WA
Dear Aliana,
If he was to open up his eyes to see what is right in front of him, it would his best friend who also has a boyfriend but wants to be with him. Do you think that is the kind of person he wants to be with? Maybe it is but you are fooling yourself if you are saying that you are not leading on your boyfriend or that it is not your intention to because it is your intention and you are doing it whether or not you want to admit that.
You know you don’t love him that way, yet you choose to stay with him and waste his time. You are just waiting for the moment that your best friend says he wants to date you and then your going to drop your boyfriend right? Do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him if you don’t love him the way he should be loved.
As for your best friend, it sounds like he just wants to string you along by letting you believe that he has feelings for you and that distance is the problem, because really one hour apart is just an excuse he is using. He probably just wants you to hold on to him so he can keep you around just in case he has no one else.
Even if your best friend does like you, what kind of person are you making yourself out to be? Someone who has a boyfriend but has feelings for someone else? What makes your best friend thinks it won’t happen to him? Be respectful to other people’s feelings if you want your feelings to be respected as well.
Always here,
Jasmine
