Dear Jasmine,
I’m 15 years old and I’ve been through a couple of short-term relationships. Most of them ended up being disasters and each one broke my heart. I like a guy, and I’ve always been shy so I never really go for it, and each time I do gather the courage to go up and tell him, I end up freaking out when he walks by.
My methods of getting a guy probably aren’t the best, but I don’t know what else to do. That and since I’m so paranoid about getting hurt again I’m scared to go for someone I have feelings for. I want to say something, but I just cant. I’m going insane. Please help.
Jen
Sherman Oaks, CA
Dear Jen,
Instead of going up to guys, why don’t you give a guy a chance to come up to you? I think you are too consume with being with someone you like that it may not turn out the way you want it to. I think you should concentrate on being yourself and if the guy you happen to like, likes you back then you can go from there. But to just constantly seek out guys you like may be taking a toll on your sanity.
That could be a reason that your last few relationships have ended badly. You should take your time with relationships. Don’t just jump into a relationship with some guy you like. You need to get to really know the guy before you start developing a relationship with him. Just knowing someone from the surface may be the reason you fall for the guy but in reality when you get to really know him, he is not all he seems. That is way you shouldn’t just make a beeline for the next guy you like. It takes time to get to know someone and see if you may be compatible together. It will save you the trouble of getting with the guy and then finding out later they are not who you thought they were.
Being with a guy isn’t the most important thing in the world but if you let it happen naturally and find a guy who really cares about you then you could potentially have a long-term relationship. Jumping into these relationships may make you prone to getting hurt and that is why you have this fear of being hurt. Just let things happen as they come and don’t force it. In the meantime, enjoy other aspects of your life, such as school and friends, etc. I know it is easy to get caught up and be boy crazy but too much may be more harmful to you then you know.
Always here,
Jasmine
