Dear Jasmine,
I am a 22 year old girl and have been going out with my boyfriend for over 6 years. He has cheated on me and we broke up but managed to work things out. Recently he double crossed me with someone again but he says he loves me and wants to marry me. I believe he loves me but this cheating is really eating me. What should I do, l love this guy. Please help.
Batsirai M.
Zimbabwe
Dear Batsirai,
First of all, you need to love yourself. How can you be with someone who has not only cheated on you once, but now he has cheated on you again? The problem is that you don’t respect yourself enough to leave him. You should be the only women in his life during these 6 years, and you most certainly were not. Sometimes people make mistakes, but they learn from them. Your boyfriend does not sound like he has or ever will.
He is just saying he wants to marry you to keep you around. Do you really want to marry someone who will probably cheat on you, given his history? You deserve to be with someone who will only be with you and no one else. Don’t disrespect yourself the way your boyfriend has disrespected you time and time again. I know it will be hard to break up with someone after being with them for so long but you have been treated very badly for a long time.
You need to realize that no one deserves to be treated the way you have been treated and by staying with your boyfriend, you are telling him that he can cheat on you and you will stay with him. Despite what you may tell him, if you stay with him, he will think he can get away with cheating on you. Do yourself a favor and break up with him. Take some time to get over this relationship and in time you will realize just how much better you are without him.
It is better to be single and giving yourself the chance to find someone who will love only you, then to be cheated on time and time again by someone who doesn’t even love you. Don’t give your boyfriend the satisfaction of knowing he can cheat on you whenever he wants and sweet talk you into staying with him. Stand up to him and show him that you know your worth more then the way he has treated you.
Always here,
Jasmine
