Dear Jasmine,
I caught my alcoholic husband touching my 12-year-old daughter’s breast in the middle of the night. He was naked and drunk. After I talked to her she said this had happened a couple of times before. I had him arrested and have filed for a divorce.
Am I doing the right thing? He is in rehab and I really believe is turning himself around. One side of me wants to believe him and the other side knows what he truly is, an alcoholic. I have lived through 5 years of hell. He was drinking 50 beers a day!
I am an enabler. I am trying to be so strong, but it is hard. I believe that I am doing the right thing. He has been an alcoholic for 30 years. Deep in my heart I think he will relapse and also I really don’t think I want to trust him around my daughter.
I keep thinking if I did let him come back and he did do something else to my daughter then how I would I feel. What direction do I go in?
Kelly O.
Maryland
Dear Kelly,
You go in the opposite direction your soon to be ex-husband is going and don’t turn back. In fact, run as far away from him as possible. You are doing the right thing, not only for your daughter but also for yourself. He has caused so much grief to you and your daughter. He has already ruined a good part of your daughter’s life. Don’t let him ruin the rest of her life.
Don’t even consider getting back with him just because he is in rehab. Maybe if you do consider it, it should be like 20 years after he has completed rehab and shown he has changed. In other words, you and your daughter should move on with your lives and try rebuilding. Be strong for not only your daughter, but for yourself.
Always here,
Jasmine
