Dear Jasmine,
I am a survivor of sexual abuse and I am forty years old. I have been insecure ever since I was sexually abused. I have been with the same partner for years and I have pushed him away with my insecurities. The way he deals with me is avoiding me, which hurts.
This past Sunday I called him and woke him up. I asked him what he was doing and he said nothing. I asked him if anyone was there and then I thought I heard someone cough and I automatically said that was a woman. He said that he was listening to music and then the music got louder. He then said he was going back to sleep and hung up on me.
I panic when I heard the cough and jump to conclusions, like I always do. He has never given me a reason to doubt him, he has never cheated on me in the past that I am aware of. Now he won’t talk to me it’s been five long days. This is nothing new; he always behaves this way when he is mad at me.
Now I am wondering is he staying away because he is angry, hurt or is he cheating? Please help.
Kris I.
Winnipeg Canada
Dear Kris,
Your boyfriend doesn’t sound like that great of a guy. He is not at all sensitive to your feelings and that shows that he doesn’t really care that much about you. From what I gather, he calls you when he feels like calling you. You may have been onto him, hearing the cough so he panicked and is avoiding you until it blows over. I think if he is just going to continue this type of childish behavior of avoiding you when he is upset, then you should leave this guy.
Don’t stay in a relationship with someone who has no communication skills and that you aren’t even sure is faithful to you. You should be cautious of what he is doing during these times he is trying to avoid you. Don’t fall for his sweet talk that he is just avoiding you, if you can’t trust the guy, do yourself the favor and just leave him.
Always here,
Jasmine
