Dear Jasmine,
My husband and I have been together for over 7 years. I have a 10 year old and we have a 3 year old together. He a had a drug problem for a long time. He has abused me and had left my 10 year old home alone when he was 5 years old.
We went to family counseling but after that he still was verbally abusive . In August 2005 his drug usage got worse staying out late over at his dealers house and I had caught him downing a lot of pills. I was working full time and was a full time student while he would hardly ever work.
One day in November of 2005 it all went down he ran into the house put me and our youngest in a corner was telling us to shut be quiet. I was terrified because I had no idea what was going on and then I heard banging on the door and was the cops.
He told me not to move and then disappeared. I couldn’t figure out where he went and after 15 minutes I went to the front door and the cops asked me where he was but I told them I didn’t know. He escaped through the back woods. Seems that he was being arrested for keeping stolen property in our barn for exchange of drugs.
He turned himself in because I was also in trouble since I lived there even if I had no knowledge of what was going on. I spent 3 days in jail. I ended up having to plea to 12 misdemeanors and 2 years probation. I moved out with the boys left him almost everything.
He has called me says he is sober now, I believe that I did the right thing by leaving him. I don’t know what I should do.
LaDonna M.
Bentonville, AR
Dear LaDonna,
After what you just went through, I wonder why you would even consider giving your husband another chance. He betrayed your trust in the worse way and endangered the life of you and your children.
I would not suggest you get back with him right now. If you do want to get back together with him, I would suggest going to counseling first and dealing with what happened and be assured that he has changed and will no longer beat you or your children.
You have to put you and your children first right now and you cannot allow him back into your life if he is just lying to you all over again and you will just through this cycle of abuse. Do the right thing for you and your children.
Always here,
Jasmine
