Dear Jasmine,
I am in a relationship with a really amazing boy and were madly in love with each other. We have been together for 7 months but a bad situation happened about 2 months ago. He decided to tell his mom that he was gay. He was so confident that she wouldn’t really care but in the end she cared a lot.
She sent him away to his dads which on the other side of town. At first I got to talk to him everyday over the phone but after like 3 weeks or so it was disconnected. So that was the end of that because his dad couldn’t afford internet or a cell phone for him to use.
I only got a call from once a week when he visited he aunt. Now I wasn’t thinking about taking a break with him but he gave the bad news that his dad wants to move to Arizona. That just killed me because I wouldn’t be able to talk to him let alone see him.
I don’t want take a break with him or break up with him because I can’t see myself with anyone but him. It may be 2 years before I see him again. I am torn between 2 things. I don’t know if I should stay with him while it kills me knowing I can’t see him or break up with him or take a break and just get back with him when he comes back in the city or finds a stable place to stay.
Michael
Las Vegas, NV
Dear Michael,
I think that in your situation, it sounds like taking a break would be a good idea for the both of you. While you both may be upset and scared of the future, if you two were meant to be together, I think eventually you two will get back together.
However, the circumstances doesn’t seem to work in your favor right now and instead of driving yourself crazy, perhaps it is time to let go a little bit and just leave your life as it is. You are still young and perhaps this will give you a chance to explore other possibilities too.
Always here,
Jasmine
