Dear Jasmine,
My husband and I have been planning on taking a trip with another couple to Las Vegas in a few months. On New Year’s Eve we were at their house for a party. Sometime during the night, the sister of the one of the couple, said how she heard how we were all going to Vegas and how much fun that would be and mentioned that they would like to go too.
Meaning her and her fiancé, I was taken a little aback and figured she must have been talking to her brother and wife (the other couple about going). So I said oh yea, that would be fun I’m not good at saying no to people).
Well when I get a chance a few days later to talk to the couple we’re going with, this is news to them. So now what do we do? It’s not a huge deal if they come, but I get the feeling that we would rather go without the sister.
I’m kind of mad that she just went ahead and invited herself like that.
On top of all that I’m the one that is suppose to be lining everything up for 4 people and now 6? Do you have any advice as to what to do?
Thank You!
Sarah
Mankato, MN
USA
Dear Sarah,
I know it can be annoying but we always have a few of those people in our lives that invite themselves to things you are doing even when you clearly are not inviting them.
It sounds like you don’t really know this other couple and it was never set in stone that they are coming along, I would suggest that you just plan the trip for the 4 of you.
Unless you told them for sure they can come and that you will be including them in your plans. If that is the case, then short of telling them sorry but we book a lot of things already so maybe next time.
I know that it is hard to say no sometimes but in the future, instead of saying no, you can say something to the sort that the planning has already begun and bookings and what not so you have to get back to them. That gives you a little bit of time and also gives you a chance to say sorry but maybe next time.
Have fun in Vegas!
Always here,
Jasmine
