Dear Jasmine,
My boyfriend was going to college 2 hours away and I told him it wasn’t working so he quit school and moved to the city to be with me. He’s working full time and behind on all his bills plus he’s not in school.
He plans to save money and start in the fall. None of his friends like me so they keep telling me he only wants me for the sex and they started groups on Facebook making fun of me.
Some of the girls harass me at school (call me names and threaten to beat me up).They’re Freshmens and I’m a Senior so I think all that is really childish and I don’t plan on fighting them. But my boyfriend doesn’t stick up for me and he’ll still hang out with the girls and he started drinking because he’s so stressed and when we fight he keeps throwing that in my face “well I quit school for you”.
Last week I thought I was pregnant and he said we were going to keep it no matter what but then he’s still playing games. I feel like the only mature person I know. What should I do about all this?
Michelle S.
Oklahoma City, OK
USA
Dear Michelle,
If you were truly mature, you would not have had your boyfriend quit school to be closer to you. Do you know how many people go off to different colleges and they still manage to work things out? It was very selfish of you to tell your boyfriend to quit school to be with you.
What kind of future do you have with this guy? He doesn’t respect you and he clearly shows it by the way he acts with his friends, but yet you think that because he left school for you that it must mean something. What it means is he is a quitter.
There is no reason for you to stay with this guy when he clearly shows that he has not respect for you by not only hanging out with the girls even after they disrespected you, but also by not even sticking up for you. Are you not embarrassed by his actions? And by your own?
Just because he said to keep the baby when he thought you were pregnant, doesn’t really mean anything coming from a guy who isn’t do much with his life at this point.
Decide for yourself whether you need respect or not. If you don’t care for respect then you can stay with him. But if you do want respect, then I would say leave the guy and let him live his life. Any guy who is willing to drop school to move to be with his girlfriend, doesn’t sound like much of a man. A man will figure out a way to make it all work and still get his education.
Always here,
Jasmine
