Dear Jasmine,

There is this guy I have know of all my life and only recently have become friends with him. Over the past year, I have developed feelings for him. We hang out like once a week, one on one and have dinner and chill, but he is seeing another girl, who is married awaiting a divorce, and not sure when that will happen.

I want to tell him how I feel and only hope we can build something together but not sure if I am just wasting my time with him. We talk each day and it’s really a nice connection when we talk. If I decide to come clean what do I say or should I remain silent and just take it for what it is for as long as I can get it?

In love and confused,
J
Bermuda

Dear J,

I think that you should tell your friend how you feel because that way you will never have to wonder about what could have been. You would know that either he wanted to pursue a relationship with you or he didn’t. If he doesn’t it is better that you know now, rather then pine away for him for more time and let it drag on. Just tell him how you feel about him since you started hanging out and how the feelings have developed and you wanted to know how he felt. Hopefully all goes well, but if it doesn’t, just remember, its better that you know now so you can begin to move on, rather then find out years down the line.

Always here,
Jasmine