Not Appreciated at Work
I am a salaried worker and I often times put in overtime but of course, being a salaried worker, I don’t get paid for overtime.It amazes me the amount of time and effort I put into a job, yet my boss doesn’t even appreciate it. I know its not a requirement to work overtime but sometimes if I don’t then I seriously will not even have time for a lunch break.
It seems that employers are so use to workers slacking off and complaining about it but fail to recognize those that put in the extra time and effort because those people get rewarded with a bonus and raise as the rest of us!
I guess I should just be grateful I have a job?
Cut the Cord
My husband’s parents, who threatened to disinherit him if we got married, are driving me nuts. We live in my husband’s apartment. On the second floor, his sister and her family live under us, and his
parents live in the apartment too.My daughter and 1 of my 2 sons are named after them, and my husband just can’t seem to be able to stand up for himself when it comes to his father. His father is a vulgar, ignorant, verbally abusive person who has never given any type of support to my husband.
Although my husband is struggling financially, he feels that we should give them some of the money we make! I am just so worried that his father will pass away and the money in the bank will have to be shared between my husband and his sister.
That money is for my children and their future, not for my nephews and my sister and brother in law. I will never be able to get my husband to go beyond wanting to please his father and giving in to his demands.
Leaving my husband is not an option because we love each other and our 3 children and we never argue about anything else except his pathological devotion to his family.
Anyone else out there in a similar situation?
Athena
Greece
Cheating Brother In Law
My husband’s brother was dating this girl for 6 years. The were planning their wedding and the priest was already booked. Over time the two of us became really good friends. Problem is that he has been cheating on her since the first year that they were together. He promised that he would change and she then moved back home and they started working on their relationship.
In July this year she then discovered that he has been cheating on her with a married 20 year old woman who has a 2 and a half year old son. She confronted him about this and he denied this telling her that they were just friends and that she and her 35 year old husband were having marital problems and she needed to talk to someone.
She threatened to tell the husband if he did not stop all contact with her and so he did. However last month, she got a hold of his cell phone bill and discovered $500 worth of calls being made to a number that she did not recognize.
She called the number and discovered that he has been dating another 20 year old since October 2006. Neither woman knew of the other. The two of them spoke and this girl hung up the phone. She then confronted the boyfriend and he admitted that he has been seeing her for over a year.
She then finally broke it off with him but he claimed to still want to be with her. A week later she needed to get something at their flat and walked in on the loser boyfriend and this other chick in the shower. The two woman were left alone for a few moments and discovered all the lies that he has been feeding them both.
They agreed that he was scum and needed to be dumped. However he and this girl are now an official couple. They are going to work functions and being all happy and in love while the ex is left mending a broken heart.
What is my problem you ask? I feel as though I have been betrayed right alongside her. How am I supposed to face my brother in law who hasn’t so much as told his brother that he and his fiancé had broken up but he is now seeing the woman he cheated on her with.
Now I feel as though caught in the middle having to be loyal to my husband and his family, yet at the same time stand by one of my best friends. I cant be happy for people who have caused so much hurt and heartache to someone I care about.
Bridgett
Cape Town, South Africa
Messy Divorce
My sister and her ex-husband fell out of love years ago. Even before they had a second child (though I think at least she denied it). He began an affair with his married 23 year old paralegal and confessed 2 weeks after their son was born when the paralegal’s husband found them in bed. My sister needless to say booted the loser.He agreed to part time custody and has slowly been weaning the kids off him. He has called them a burden because they are loud and interfer with his life. He’s engaged to the typical mid-life crisis scenario/fantasy. Really an outstanding guy… Ha!
He’s mentally abusive to my sister and she takes it because she loves her daughter enough to want her daughter’s father to be a part of her life. I’ve told my sister its not healthy for her or her children to allow his mentally abusive personality be a part of their lives. Her response was of fear from her biological father walking out on her when she was young and feeling an emptiness/bitterness and not wanting that for either of her children.
The reality of being a single mom, working 60 hours a week to make ends meet, having the energy to balance a toddler and a first grader, running a household and finding time for a personal life. She’s overwhelmed! Tonight, we’ll call the paralegal “Heidiâ€, sent my sister a text message rant because she was 1/2 hour late picking up the kids (since he can’t be trusted to be sober, she always picks the kids up at night). The text was threatening and abusive. What will it take to get my sister the help she needs? How can someone act like this when there are kids involved???
D.C.
Minnesota
Enjoy School While You Can
I remember I use to hate studying for midterms, finals, etc. But now that I have been working, I wish I could go back to school. You have to work everyday, not to mention getting suck with working with unprofessional people! When you went to school, sometimes you can skip a couple of classes without harming your grade that much. Can’t do that at work! I just wanted to tell everyone to enjoy their life before they start working, I wish I did.
Ann
Los Angeles, CA
Messy Divorce
My sister and her ex-husband fell out of love years ago. Even before they had a second child (though I think at least she denied it). He began an affair with his married 23 year old paralegal and confessed 2 weeks after their son was born when the paralegal’s husband found them in bed. My sister needless to say booted the loser.He agreed to part time custody and has slowly been weaning the kids off him. He has called them a burden because they are loud and interfer with his life. He’s engaged to the typical mid-life crisis scenario/fantasy. Really an outstanding guy… Ha!
He’s mentally abusive to my sister and she takes it because she loves her daughter enough to want her daughter’s father to be a part of her life. I’ve told my sister its not healthy for her or her children to allow his mentally abusive personality be a part of their lives. Her response was of fear from her biological father walking out on her when she was young and feeling an emptiness/bitterness and not wanting that for either of her children.
The reality of being a single mom, working 60 hours a week to make ends meet, having the energy to balance a toddler and a first grader, running a household and finding time for a personal life. She’s overwhelmed! Tonight, we’ll call the paralegal “Heidiâ€, sent my sister a text message rant because she was 1/2 hour late picking up the kids (since he can’t be trusted to be sober, she always picks the kids up at night). The text was threatening and abusive. What will it take to get my sister the help she needs? How can someone act like this when there are kids involved???
D.C.
Minnesota
Enjoy School While You Can
I remember I use to hate studying for midterms, finals, etc. But now that I have been working, I wish I could go back to school. You have to work everyday, not to mention getting suck with working with unprofessional people! When you went to school, sometimes you can skip a couple of classes without harming your grade that much. Can’t do that at work! I just wanted to tell everyone to enjoy their life before they start working, I wish I did.
Ann
Los Angeles, CA
People who Cheat on their family
My dad cheated on my mum all the time on several occasions i caught him. He broke our hearts and our family. I will never forgive him. Why were we not enough for him? And why do women sleep with married men? Don’t they realize the damage they are doing?
Alana S.
Scotland, UK
Enjoy School While You Can
I remember I use to hate studying for midterms, finals, etc. But now that I have been working, I wish I could go back to school. You have to work everyday, not to mention getting suck with working with unprofessional people! When you went to school, sometimes you can skip a couple of classes without harming your grade that much. Can’t do that at work! I just wanted to tell everyone to enjoy their life before they start working, I wish I did.
Ann
Los Angeles, CA
Cutting in Line
I have a problem with people who save spaces for people in line. Meaning I am standing in a line and there is someone in front of me that saves a place in line for their friend(s). They don’t live the line, they merely allow their friend(s) to cut into line! What is wrong with people these days! Don’t they realize that there are a lot of other people who actually had to stand in the lines all day by themselves!
Kimberly P.
San Franciso, CA
Call you back
Why is it that people tell you they will call you back, but they never do. If you do not want to call someone back, what is so hard about not saying you will? If you don’t want to call them back just don’t say anything! There is no point in saying that you will call someone back if you aren’t planning to at all. I notice that a lot of my girlfriends do this and it has happened so many times where they would call me back days later to say they forgot to call me back. Whatever it is, don’t tell someone you will call them back unless your going to!
Patti J.
New York, NY
Always Late
Why do people not call you when they are going to be late? I have this one friend who I simply have not been able to rely on when it comes to being on time. She has always been late ever since I have known her and she never bothers to call when she is late. Sometimes she will tell me that she wants to meet up later and call me but never does! Then when I ask her about it later she expects me to call her or she makes up an excuse that she was sleeping or something! I wish people would realize that it is really inconsiderate to make people wait and not tell them. I have talked to her about it numerous times but she always says she is sorry but never changes so I gave up on it.
