Throughout your life, friendships come and friendships go. That has been the way of life. People you thought were your best friends, may eventually showed their true colors and people you thought you weren’t that good of friends turn out to be better then you thought.
Letting go of friendships can be hard, especially when you thought this person was your best friend and they go behind your back and lie to you, ruin you financially, or basically something to screw you over. Sounds familiar? I think to some extent, all of us has experienced this in our lives.
I have seen the effects of this kind of friendship, firsthand and also seen it happen to my love ones. When you have a long friendship to start with, many people are in denial of a possible betrayal because there is no way in their mind that their friend would screw them over like that.
Sadly, I have seen many longtime friendships end because of lies and outright disregard for their friend. Let me run some real life scenarios by you that may have ended in a loss of a “friend” but you gain a lesson.
You find out your best friend for years is secretly dating your boy/girlfriend. Your first instinct is to be angry, sad, and all these intense emotions at your friend and significant other. Some may even blame their friend more then their significant other. Bottom line, no matter the circumstance, cheating is wrong. You know that and they knew it too. Does it suck that it happened? Heck ya it does. But you know what? You dodged a bullet there, your friend actually did you a big favor by showing you what kind of person you were actually dating. Unfortunately at the same time, your friend also showed you what kind of friend they are. At the end, you may lose two people you once thought was important to you but in reality, if someone can do that to do, you are much better without them and they were never the kind of “friend” or “significant other” that you deserve.
A friend that screws you over out of lots of money because they were careless and does nothing but sit back and let you take the blame. It takes a real character to do that. But what can you do? You can be angry and you can resent that you ever knew this so called friend. But the biggest lesson you learn, is when it comes to money, keep it separate from your friends, unless you are fine with never seeing that money again. Money has a way of ruining a relationship that you never thought possible. Take it as a lesson learned and be glad to be rid of someone toxic like that in your life. Keep your finances and friendships separate.
Your friend gets into another argument with a mutual friend and wants you to take sides. The worse thing you can do is take sides in an argument that has nothing to do with you. It is one thing to take sides if it is an obvious moral deceit or something horrid but when it really just comes down to difference in opinion, it is best to stay neutral. However you try to remain neutral and remain friends with both. One of them gets angry at you because are still friends with the other and decides that you two are no longer friends. When friends are trying to dictate who you can be friends with, that can be a problem. Now, I am all for loyalty but not when it comes to small petty things. Now, lets say your friend tried to steal your other friends significant other behind their back. What do you do then? Do you not be friends with the offender? In this case, I think the best thing you can do is to realize what kind of friend the offender is and be cautious in your dealings with them but I wouldn’t suggest siding with the other person to gain up again the offender. This shows the character of your offending friend and it really should serve as an eye opener for you as how this person can treat others they consider friends.
Everyone wants to be best friends with their childhood friend or their current best friend. While many people dwell over lost friendships, many people forget the value of a friendship, even a friendship that has ended.
I could go on and on but I am sure many of you have experienced the above or worse in your life. What many people tend to forget are these little lessons you learn along the way. Friendships aren’t always forever, whether it ends because of betrayal or simply because you drifted apart. Every friendship comes with something valuable to learn from, whether it is good or whether it is bad. For those who have wronged you, good luck to their other friends! Hopefully they will one day learn that friendships shouldn’t be treated so poorly and change for the better. One can only hope! For those friendships that slowly drift apart due to distance, change of personalities, etc, it happens and you can still cherish those memories you once had and accept the fact that people do change and sometimes that will cause people to grow apart.
Cherish your friends and hope they cherish you back and the rest is history.
I apologize for not writing a blog for such a long time. I have been trying to incorporate new things onto this website to make it more interesting for readers and also give people a chance to get advice from reader from all over the world. I know many readers need a response quickly but due to the high volume of emails I receive I cannot respond as quickly as I would like. That is why I thought the forum would be a great idea because readers would be able to stop by and correspond with our other readers of our site.
In between responding to your emails and keeping up with the many sites, I do my best to respond as quickly as possible. If you guys have any suggestions or feedback for me I would greatly appreciate it. In the meantime, keep writing and I will keep responding!
Always here,
Jasmine
So the Holiday season is upon us once again. The stress of shopping during the holiday increases, as you now have to buy gifts for multiple people in your life. I have trouble shopping for one person, let alone a variety of people!
It seems like the holidays are less about spending time with your family on a rare occasion of a day off from work. I remember the good old days when you had tons of family over and play games and just have fun. It seems as the years pass on by, holidays such as Christmas has become less of a “holiday” and more of a time for retailers to guilt people into buying gifts.
Times are tough for many people, I think many people all over the world is feeling the burden of so many “gifts”, especially those in the United States. I wonder if people would still celebrate holidays such as Christmas, if there was no presents involved. OH NO, I didn’t get a gift? I guess that is what retailers all over the world wants us to feel. And the sad part of it all is, that is how about 99% of the people would feel. That just goes to show what a great job they did at brainwashing all the generations of our society.
Anyway, I hope that whether or not you receive a tangible gift this holiday season, that you still can celebrate the “cheer”, the “love” and the “day” of Christmas, with those you love and be grateful for the gift of love you receive all year round.
Happy Holidays,
Jasmine
